The Ideal

Society tells us what the ideal marriage is.

But what is your ideas of an ideal marriage? What about your spouses?
Where do you see your ideal marriage in 5 years, in 10 years, in 50 years?

This is one of the homework assignments we have had. Marriage is different for everyone. What may be perfect for myself and my husband, may not be all that perfect for you. Take the media and society and whatever out of it and make it your own. Make what works for you.

Have you ever seen the show Everyone Loves Raymond? What is your views on Raymond's parents? They seem pretty hostile towards each other, unloving, disrespectful of each other would be my first impression. But what may seem like a bad marriage on the outside, look at how long they have been married (on the show)... There is an episode where Raymond and Marie (I think that is her name) where they see his parents really meshing together, they know each other so well, that they know how to be there for each other - though on the outside looking in, it may seem completely different.

Perhaps you might say that some marriage stick together because of the generation they are in and perhaps that is the case in many marriages, but good for that generation - in many regards... Much of the marriages that stick it out for the generations have taken their vows or their covenants seriously... it isn't just something to be tossed aside, even when there may be feelings of lack of love between the couple. There is a reason for that, delve into the reason, fix the reason and move forward.

What I am getting at is that your ideal is different from someone else... and that is perfectly fine. We aren't in marriage to one up the Joneses in what ideal is, because everyone is different, everyone has different needs, different wants.

My challenge for you is to answer these questions to gain new insight in what your spouse desires and move forward!