Mutual Respect

Marriage is a partnership that must be built on mutual respect. That’s a basic building block of any relationship. Two are better than one, the Bible says. But when one makes all the decisions alone, the value of two minds is wasted." - The Agape Connection

Grace-Based Home

"Sometimes we fool ourselves into expecting perfection. Your home needs to be a place where you allow your mate to make mistakes. In a grace-based home my mate isn't going to be perfect, but my mate is not my enemy. My mate is the love of my life. Where do you need to go back to your mate & say, 'I came down on you too hard, will you forgive me? You can make mistakes, because I've made mistakes too.'" -G&B Rosberg (snagged from Marriage Missions International)

Revisiting Problems

"When an argument starts to get out of control between you and your spouse, look for ways to defuse the situation until you can come back and work on the problem again in a more sensible and honoring way. Even if you have to revisit the same problem a dozen or more times, commit to working on it —until you can control it together—rather than having it control you and allow it to divide you in marital partnership." -- Marriage Missions International

So incredibly true! Some problems NEED to be revisited to make sure it is clear in the head and heart with no misunderstandings on how the other is feeling, why, etc on both sides. If other feelings or questions arise while you are going through the issue, then deal with them. It doesn't make the other person wrong for their feelings, they can own their feelings, as you can too - come together and work it out.

If there is anything left unresolved then it will just keep hitting your marriage back in the face over and over again, either digging a bigger hole or increasing the load of the issue. Just work it out, and don't worry if you have to revisit it, that doesn't make it wrong to need to revisit it, it just means you are working through and good for you!