Attitude

I came across a quote on Facebook, that I shared on my wall. In my comment under this quote I said this:

"...okay, not always, but I really like this quote because it is true in many ways."

And then it got me thinking... where does this quote really apply in our lives? And here is the quote from the Razzles Dazzles Facebook page:


"My Attitude 
will always be 
based on how
you treat me."

The one relationship that comes to mind when I read this is from one particular past marriage, one that was emotionally abusive. I think about the actions of this individual - from the sweet talk, being nice for a few days or so and then letting their true colors rock the boat over and over again because that sweet talk is just that - sweet talk and nothing sincere or commitment-based within the marriage itself. 

When one is treated with such disrespect, with disregard to their feelings and thoughts, yes the attitude towards your spouse that is demeaning you will definitely be based in many instances on how they are treated. I remember that feeling all too well. And the thing that makes this more-so, is the very thing that makes your spouse not even realize that they are treating you this way, that they are either exempt from making mistakes or that they are over the whole marriage in "helping" (though they are actually hindering) you and the marriage rather than looking at the marriage as whole, at themselves for that matter. When we approach our spouse with this attitude, their attitude will be based on how you just treated them. Most definitely! 


I don't find that this quote is true in all circumstances, because I don't live my own life this way at all. But when someone is treating you day-in and day-out in ways that demean your spirit, your feelings, your thoughts - yes, this quote is very fitting.